#Disrespect Makes Me Angry!!

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I am beyond angry right now!!!!!
Mother arranged daughter’s lesson today, ( a bank holiday) 11.30am. All fine with me as it leaves the rest of the day.
This is the daughter’s third lesson, well would’ve been if they had bothered to turn up and didn’t cancel the last one. The daughter has down syndrome and looks very comfortable on the kit, she has a great sound, feel and concentration. She loves music and I believe would pick up drumming rather quickly.
Unfortunately the parents, like most that want their children to play an instrument, have no idea how much effort and dedication it takes from both student and teacher. I hear comments like “oh we’re not musical but want him/her to learn an instrument” then the next time ” he/she wants to try another instrument so we’re just going to sell the other”. Most of the time the parents are not passionate about anything, let alone music, and cannot understand the utter joy, relaxation, peace, enlightenment, confidence, respect that a person finds playing an instrument. The ability to focus, understand the workings of your body & mind are, I believe, very important to a human to be able to adapt to the ways of the world.
I get my students to play, then stop and close their eyes. I want them to visualize with touch how their body is positioned and if they are comfortable and are sitting in the most efficient position to move around the kit. I get them to to try and move their mind to one spot on their body and get all the senses firing there. Getting them to do this helps their body remember the best position so when next time they get on the kit they feel great and in control.
This teaching method is more important and has greater affect on my students with disabilities, most of whom have twitches and to control their limbs takes a lot of effort.
I love teaching. I love to watch people find their groove. I get excited when I hear something new and start dancing and singing round the room, sometimes I jam with them on the timbales, djembe or toms. I get a flush of adrenaline and get them to play like they never thought they would, because of their inner rhythm, the rhythm that naturally flows and reveals itself with every hit of the drum skin, an invisible force takes over and compels them/you to keep playing until a natural cadence is reached.
What a great work out as well.

The parents who come to me asking me to teach their children, have very little or no respect for the drums, they just think it’s cool that a woman plays the kit and how cool it would be for their kids (’cause drummers don’t get picked on). I have noticed it’s the people that are just over the working class line, the ones who have a touch more money to throw around, disrespect most music teachers. They believe you can work miracles because a few dollars have been flung at you and you will make their child a prodigy. They are late for lessons, sometimes leave their children to go and have coffee and are late back. Don’t ever encourage them to practice, or encourage them by saying they will cancel lessons and sell the instrument. Or sometimes just Don’t Turn Up or Call!

Music is supposed to be fun, yes it takes dedication to gain knowledge, but if people understood the therapeutic effects music has on us and realize it makes us calmer, sociable, creative, empathetic and heightens our intellect, then the world would be a noisier, but better place.

It’s a shame that children are missing out on a whole other world because of the stupidity of their parents. Maths is super important to get you through life, so some say. If a child does not understand maths, you hire a tutor if you cannot teach them yourself. Not all people understand maths to great depth, but still believe it’s one of the most important subjects that you need to get a great job.
Music is mathematical, but I think because of it’s complexity and various genres, the stupid Mr & Mrs Blogs thinks it is merely entertainment and have not got the brains to think beyond the sound to really work out what it’s doing to our bodies.

There are so many social aspects that I cannot cover, but the bottom line is those with money seem to put monetary value on music. Those with little or none, understand and appreciate music for what it is. So maybe I should just forget getting paid and give free lessons, by doing so I will connect the ones that need & want music in their lives and weed out the empty minded, up their own backsides,  moronic trend chasers that make me angreeeeeeeeeeeeeee! (I know it’s not spelled right, just needs it)

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5 thoughts on “#Disrespect Makes Me Angry!!

  1. haha! Well spoke!!! I agree with you on all points that the feeling and focus from sticking with the instrument and jamming to the inner rhythyms is priceless. I probably spell rhythyms wrong but oh well. I do think it shows a lack of respect for themselves to show up late or not at all or not to call. I do think that it is no mystery. People need to learn and listen to music. Just like writers need readers and so on. Great post, I enjoyed it.

    • thanks for the comment.
      Written in anger first thing this morning. I would much rather have had the great feeling after I’ve taught, but there’s always a positive in the negative right? Thankfully I have the ability to articulate my feelings.

      • Still not forgiven the mother, as she STILL has not phoned to apologise! I have however had a lovely couple of days and met some amazing volunteers in our local rotary club, who do wonders for the community and have just finished a project for the disabled. Not everyone I encounter is a complete poo! Faith in humanity restored for another week,

  2. Music has always played a great part in my life. Piano and guitar lessons took me to places within myself that I didn’t know existed. Through life playing an instrument has always been something I fall back on in times of stress.

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